Monday, March 12, 2012

Might I Suggest You Get A Cat Instead!

This posting is not intended to be intentionally hurtful or petty. Let this particular posting be a reminder to all of us. I may not be a parent yet but certain things are as clear to me as it is clear to everyone with a sound mind that fire is hot and ice is cold. Some things are just a matter of plain common sense. You don't have to be a genius to know that you shouldn't touch a boiling kettle. You also don't have to be a parent to know that you shouldn't allow a child to go anywhere unattended. Especially if the child is only 5 years old! Even if a 5 year old child has been tested a genius, the fact remains that 5 year olds are still practically babies!!!! No matter how smart you may want to think your child is!

This posting comes as our nation has just been rocked by a horrifying tragedy. The charred remains of a 5 year old girl, Nurul Nadhirah, was found recently in Johor after her parents reported her missing on the 1st of March. The parents had sent the child out to buy groceries and she hasn't been seen since. Police have identified that the remains found recently are of the little girl's. Tragedy happens, yes. Just like the old Malay adage, Malang Tidak Berbau. However, in some cases, tragedy could have been avoided. It is not my intention to pour salt into an open wound, but I'm enraged. And I want this posting to serve as a reminder to us all that things like this could have been avoided. Unless the parents were attacked and the child snatched, or the parents were put under a spell (pukau) and was unaware that their child was taken from them, or the parents are disabled and the child has to run errands for the parents, or any other instances that cannot be linked to negligent, then this whole thing could have been avoided.

I am not heartless, indeed like the rest of the country I am saddened about the fate received by the poor child. But this brings forth something that I have always been saying, parents nowadays must realize that we are no longer living in the 60s or 70s. If this was 30 years ago, it would have been fine to let the child go out alone and unsupervised, but this is a different time and age altogether. I honestly can't help but feel angry towards the parents who let their 5 year old go out to the grocery shop alone! She's 5 for crying out loud, not 15! Yes I'm not yet a parent, but to those of you who are, please be more cautious! Please, for the love of God, do not let your little ones go anywhere outside unattended!!!! Yes the person who physically did the child harm is as guilty as sin and should burn in hell, but at the end of the day, if as the parent you were negligent, there's no one to blame but yourself.

It isn't like this is an isolated case. How many cases of missing children have we heard about in the past 5 years alone?? Too many! How many times have we watched the news and hear stories about kids going missing because the parents weren't paying attention? Missing at the mall, missing while they go out to the nearby shop, missing while playing at the playground, missing while playing outside the house, missing while on their way to a friend's house, etc etc. It's no longer shocking to read about these things. And unless Nurul Nadhirah's parents have been living under a rock all this while, like the rest of us, they would have known about all these other cases too. If the kid goes missing after all precautions have been taken, then fine. But still we continue to hear cases where tragedy could have been avoided. I hope that the Department of Children and Families will play a bigger role in these kinds of cases. I say in cases where the parents were negligent, they should be charged as well. Unless the parents are severely disabled, and that was the reason why the child was sent to the grocery store then fine. But if it could have been avoided, then I say drag them to court because they are as much liable for her death as the person who physically did harm to the child is.

I honestly hope an investigation will be carried out to determine if the parents were negligent. While everyone is busy being angry at the person who harmed the girl, I am more furious at the parents. I hope that if they are found to be negligent, then they too deserve a harsh punishment. Let that be a reminder to other parents out there. Remember that a child is a gift from Allah SWT. So many people want kids but can't have any, and those of you who have been blessed enough to have kids, more often than not, you take your kids for granted. It isn't a big deal I suppose allowing your child to go off unattended, until something like this happens! Then you wail and cry and what good would that do then??

I can't stress this enough, unless all precautions had been taken, then the only person liable for whatever happens to your child, is you yourself. If you have kids, and you're reading this, please, please, do not let them go anywhere unattended. This is 2012, not 1965!!!! It's not safe to let kids roam about on their own, especially not 5 year olds. If you don't think you can handle the responsibility of caring for another human life, then might I suggest settling for a damn cat!

1 comment:

  1. i truly agree!it is just ridiculous to let out a 5 year old baby to buy groceries!if you think you don't like the responisiblity of taking care of your own child, don't have one for a start!jgn la sebab senah ada anak ko pn nak anak kot?and i dont understand when i saw on tv it says dont blame it all on the parents. like hello? who in the first place let the child out and running getting groceries when mother is too busy dealing with God knows what?i don't feel sorry for the mother at all